after really solid connect with guides is made, asking guides tender question: is my body, right now, the right way to become a parent?
if so, show me how, show me what needs healed first, what’s needed
if not, then show me how i might become a parent in a really aligned, good way for me and potential child. show me what to do with my longing for child.
this is a negotiation! a conversation! we work with the spirit side, we aim to be humble. we bring our longing and love to them and they show us how to apply it to our lived experience.
meet potential children with help of guides
what needs sorted out energetically between gestational/pregnant parent and bio co-conception parent (also donors). (perhaps place here for commitment ceremony between all parents involved--so that child knows who parents are)
what needs to be sorted out in house physically!! babies/ancestors might have real needs that be changed (like get rid of all the x stuff you have, or turn off wifi, or...anything) in house in order for them to feel comfy coming
what are traditional foods that support fertility in your people? ask guides what to make. fish, eggs, liver, marrow...etc. prepare these and wholeheartedly connect to them as much as possible.
Establishing protection -- clear the field!
Intake of what needs to be adjusted on a body level, herbal consult from guides
super tender question that I think is good to bring to guides, which is: is now and my body/person wanting to be pregnant's body the good way to become a parent? To make space for the fact that sometimes the ancestors will say no, and will have an alternate route to being a parent besides bio conception that is just the way it's supposed to be. We should find a way to weave this basic question in without being super drama about it.
All the trouble in the lineages esp about sex
Opportunity to do this work and receive benefit/gift from it in this time
Working with sperm/egg donors’ guides
Your own conception - cultural healing about this, the ways being conceive in the family, patterns of this (esp most recent 3-4 generations)
Clarity on one’s own intentions for conceiving -- supports the intention of the one coming in